agballa notes - issue 27 - ourĀ firstĀ homeĀ isĀ ourselves


hey Reader,

blessed new moon in cancer!

what’s been coming up for you emotionally lately? how is it showing up in your work, home, and creative practice?

feel free to reply if you’d like to share, or use this as a journal prompt.

I’ve been thinking about ā€œself-careā€ vs. ā€œself-centered,ā€ and the deep connection between care, home, and belonging. water, memory, ancestors, emotion—these are the themes of this cycle.

so here’s lesson three from my recent fallow period:

our first home is ourselves.

we need to center ourselves. not in a rigid or inconsiderate way, but in the oxygen-mask way. because home is a feeling, and it starts from the inside, from feeling at home in your own body.

our ancestors want this for us too: to live from a place of delight, abundance, and simplicity.

when you don’t design your life around your true being, inherited programming and external expectations wreak havoc. you might adopt a business model that feels hollow, follow a cleaning routine that leaves you exhausted, or say yes to every family, community, or work demand until you’re depleted (like emptying our your bank account for mutual aid o0).

boundaries help, but what we really need is a restructuring of our life’s architecture. you, first.

this looks different for everyone, often starting with small shifts that create ripples.

for me, it was swapping morning coffee for matcha, replacing afternoon caffeine with tulsi & rose tea, and realizing I didn’t have to carry my business alone. instead of buying another coaching program, I brought on someone who can hold it with me.

slowly, my energy returned. my focus sharpened. the way i move through my days, the way I mother, the way I work & play, the way I ā€œself-care,ā€ is fundamentally different.

I feel more at home in myself and in my decisions, in the way I move through the world.

what small shift might bring you back to yourself right now?

let’s connect over a virtual tea (or coffee, if that’s your thing. no shame here, I still love coffee lol) & just talk story.
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or feel free to hit reply & let me know what you’re up to. I love the healthy-small-shifts kind of tsimis/chismes!

in other news

Idk if you know this, but I have two daughters. two beautiful bonus, step, hanai, Native Hawaiian daughters. their mother, my partner, our daughters, and now our babies, are a blended powwow family. our daughters’ mother and my partner have been in the Native community for decades. I’m a little newbie.

our thirteen-year-old, Moonlight (or as I call her, Kapawa), has been serving as the first ever Honolulu Intertribal Powwow Princess, nominated by the matriarch of the Hoʻopili Tribal Council, Auntie Mae, even though we have since left Oʻahu.

Moonlight has presented at over 15 powwows across OŹ»ahu, HawaiŹ»i Island, and Turtle Island. we are so very proud of her and all she’s accomplished, representing not only her Ź»ohana, but HawaiŹ»i & sharing Ź»Ålelo Hawaii with the world.

we are returning to OŹ»ahu for the 50th Annual Honolulu Intertribal Powwow on Magic Island, so that Moonlight can pass on her crown, and we’re offering gifts to both the Head Staff of and hosting a jingle dance special for young jingle dancers.

so on behalf of Moonlight, we’re seeking sponsors and donations for this outgoing special & giveaway.

you are welcome to send a monetary gift, big or small, here:

our goal is to raise $600.

and if you’d like to join us in celebrating Kapawa & see her and the other young dancers, come through, August 29 & 30, 2026! would LOVE to see you and consensually hug you!!

mahalo nui, agyamanak, maraming salamat, from our blended family & ancestors to yours.

take good, sweet care, friends!

teresa

TL;DR:

self-care is often small shifts that restructure the architecture of your life. what small shift might bring you back to yourself right now? reply or we can talk story about this over tea or coffee.

my family and I are fundraising for our daughter’s outgoing special as the Honolulu Intertribal Powwow Princess at the 50th Annual Honolulu Intertribal Powwow on Magic Island, August 29 & 30, 2026. you can donate here.

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